After three years of trying to be supportive in my son's divorce from a controlling, narcissistic lady and his battered self-esteem, his sadness for not being with his children on a daily bais, his acknowledgement of and seeking treatment for alcohol abuse, helping him to recover from the financial devastation of divorce, and the continuing drama brought on by the ex ... I am burned out emotionally. Even though there have been long periods of time when all is well and he is happy, I still get an anxious flutter in my chest and stomach whenever I see his name on my phone or email. Today he emailed that his child support was adjusted $200 additional each month. He can barely live on what he has now. I smell lawyer bills again in my future. He is the most wonderful guy, great dad ... but I feel emotionally (and $) sucked dry. I just want to not deal with his stuff. I want to be happy again and not get that old, scared feeling whenever he calls. I want a "normal" relationship with him. I am not anywhere wrapped up with my other two adult kids like I am with him. Is this codependency at it's best? How do I make it stop?!
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