Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
If there was a poster child for codependency, it would be me!
I took care of my mom for 10+ years, and I am trying to step away from that. So now I am the ungrateful daughter and have abandoned her to die. But, that my friends, is not the worst codependency issue I have.
Now I am in a relationship with this guy, whom I love very much. The problem is he is an alcoholic and his moods can be very unpredictable. He's never abusive or dangerous, he just gets really moody, depressed and angry. I, of course, think I can fix everything and everybody around me! I just can't fix myself.
I drink with him...
We do drugs together...
He says he loves me, but I don't know if it's him saying it or the alcohol.
My friends keep telling me to get out as fast as I can, but I can't. I don't know what power he has over me, but I always think, things will get better. The drinking will stop, the drugs will stop and he'll keep a job.
This makes me a sick person doesn't it???
I took care of my mom for 10+ years, and I am trying to step away from that. So now I am the ungrateful daughter and have abandoned her to die. But, that my friends, is not the worst codependency issue I have.
Now I am in a relationship with this guy, whom I love very much. The problem is he is an alcoholic and his moods can be very unpredictable. He's never abusive or dangerous, he just gets really moody, depressed and angry. I, of course, think I can fix everything and everybody around me! I just can't fix myself.
I drink with him...
We do drugs together...
He says he loves me, but I don't know if it's him saying it or the alcohol.
My friends keep telling me to get out as fast as I can, but I can't. I don't know what power he has over me, but I always think, things will get better. The drinking will stop, the drugs will stop and he'll keep a job.
This makes me a sick person doesn't it???
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
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My ENT sent me for more tests last week...one where they had me lie back in a chair, with blacked out goggles on so I couldn't see while they administered water into my ears one at a time ( first warm, then room-tempurature, then cold) while they video taped my eyes and asked me questions to determine how cognizant I was... This test went HORRIBLY. They were about 20 seconds or so into...
That's why we always hear the advice to deal with our child issues and our family stuff...it's so that we choose as adults better lovers, friends, etc.
You're not a sick person. You just need much guidance on what CD is and how to heal from it all. Read much or maybe you can talk to therapist so you can guide yourself on when to love and support someone and when it's time to let go.
big hugs
I don't think it makes you a sick person. Just a person who probably cares for someone who has problems of their own.
I guess the only thing I can say about the alcohol is that it's not going to get better through anything you do. He is going to have to change that, and sometimes that's a very hard thing to accept. That they won't ever quite for you.
this is insanity. you are smart enough to see it, you just don't respect yourself enough to do what you know is right.
all my best,
And I just left. I just said goodbye and packed my bag and moved to my mom's house. The rest will take time to figure out. But you know what I realized...the actual leaving part is the easiest part of the whole process.