I have been with my current boyfriend for a year now. It has been an incredibly rocky year. I had not completely broken things off with my last "friend with benefits" who was detrimental and now that I have learned about codependece and recognizing every sign and symptom of codependency in my relationship with him, which caused me to spiral into a deep depression. Anyway, I felt bad ignoring him and cutting things off with him, becasue he was guilt tripping me about a lot of things, so I continued to flirt text with him, even though I was in this relationship with my current boyfriend. A month into my new relationship I felt so guilty that I tried breaking up with my boyfriend, who was hysterical, so I felt like I couldn't leave him. A month after that, I broke up with him for real. He called me a day later hysterically crying threatening his life. I, of course, immeaditately dropped everything and went over there to take care of him. All spring we weren't officially dating, but we were hanging out a lot, this time getting to know the real us. I fell in love, meanwhile I am trying to shake the other guy off. I finally got the other guy to leave me alone and I thought I was going to live happily ever after with my boyfriend. Enter the mom. My boyfriend's mom is crazy and verbally abusive. In July she threated to kick him out of the house and let his dog run loose on the street for coming to visit my family with me. Mind you he is a 24 year old adult who pays his own bills and rent. Ever since then things have not been good. He has reverted back into being a selfsih child. He isn't considerate of his surroundings, he had to tell his mom that we broke up becasue she was harrassing me, he has become so angry and can't enjoy things anymore. I can't take it anymore! Over the last couple of months I have been realizing and working on my codependency. And becasue of my depression too I am so lonely. My boyfriend is really the only person I talk to everyday. I want to break up with him, becasue I know we are not good for one another and he has a lot of growing up and maturing to do, but I don't know if I can, becasue then I won't have someone to talk to everyday, and I feel incredible guilt becasue I have put him through so much with the break ups and this other guy already. And he wants us to work so bad; he talks about future plans all the time and it hurts me so bad to not want that too. I used to want a future with him too and talk to him about future plans, but now I want someone who is mature. And if I break up with him now while he is going through so much crap I'm afraid of hurting him and that he will go back to that dark place of wanting to take his life. Also, I am moving across the country in a few weeks to live back at home to help with my depression and am not sure if I should just let it play out or if I should do it now. I feel so guilty and becasue of my depression and codependency I do not trust my judgement. I know that my depression makes me more irritable and don't know if I just can't put up with how he is acting becasue of that. I love him, he is a good and hardworking person, I want to help him to better his situation, but I also know that I can't fix it. I don't know what to do and my stomach is in knots about it.
I have been with my boyfriend who is an addict for seven years whichakes me his codependent now he is clean going on 62 days he is telling me I need to also change my life and way of thinking he fails to understand that he has mentally messed me up cheating on me constantly lieig to me so many trust issues made and makes me feel.so unloved and unwanted
I have struggled with compulsive buying before but this week everything came to a head. I have $10,000 in credit card debt that I hid from my spouse. (I had been having part of my income deposited into another bank account and using that amount to pay the debt and spend some more). When we were at the bank this week, processing our mortgage refinance, my debt came out (right while we were in the...