Hello everyone, i am knew to this discussion group.I have been reading alot of your discussions and i cannot believe that it all sounds so familiar....When my therapist told me i had codependency issues, i was shocked.I would never have put myself in that category but here i am.I am the FIXER of not only my spouses problems but my whole family as well..I want and need to stop.I have begun with my spouse and it has been difficult.I did ask him to move out but there are days when i wish i had not.I feel bad for my two girls as he really does not and has not ever fathered them. They are 17 and 11.I struggle with the thought of calling him and telling him what and how he needs to help them. I know i cannot change his behavior but i still feel quilty that the girls are feeling bad. Is anyone else here struggling with these types of issues with their children?
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