Yes. My oldest is nine - and already it is there. Her father is an alcoholic and I am a codependent, bless her heart. My mom and dad were codependents. My grandparents were alcoholics. It's a family affair.

I find that recovery and living life differently to be the only solution. For my family, it will be a tedious, generational process that will exceed my lifetime efforts for the cycle to be broken. But I go for progress, not perfection.

My dad is the genealogist in our family. We trace our violent/ addictive/ depressed family tree back to our Danish/viking/ German ancestry.

I go through fits of wanting to divert my daughter's direction, but remember that the disease is bigger than me - but not bigger than my Higher Power.

i agree with elise. my oldest is 9 as well, with an alcoholic/rageaholic father (not in the house but standard visitation) and me, the codependent.
also various other dysfunctional family members on the stage....
my recovery is key.
it's made an amazing difference is all relationships and i know they will all continue to get better as i do.
it's all about changing ourselves. that's the only way stuff around us can begin to heal!
blessings!