RELATIONSHIPS if we are unhappy without a relationship we'll probaly be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life, it doesnt become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life. Relationships are the blessing and bane of recovery. Relationships are where we take our recovery show on the road. Each day, we are faced with the prospect of functioning in several different relationships. Sometimes we choose these relationships sometimes we dont. The one choice we usually have in our relationships concerns our own behavior. In recovery from codependency our goal is to behave in ways that demonstrate responsibility for ourselves. We learn to acknowledge our power to take care of ourselves in our relationships. We learn to be intimate with people when possible. Do we need to detach from someone who weve been trying to control? Is there someone we need to talk witheven tho what we have to say may be uncomfortable? Is there someone weve been avoiding because were afraid to take care of ourselves with that person? Do we need to make an amend? Is there someone we need to reach our to, or show love? Recovery is not done apart from relationships. Recovery is done by learning to own our power and to take care of ourselves in relationships. Today, I will participate in my relationsips to the best of my ability. I will make myself available for closeness and sharing with people I trust. I will ask for what I need and give what feels right.
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