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Last night i thought i was going to die! i had the shivers, cudnt eat, or barely sleep. eventually i drifted off. Im feeling a little better this morning. For you that dont know i have broken up with my boyfriend. The main reason being him cheating on me. I dont feel very good about this at all. I havent felt so sick ever in my life.
you know i know he had cheated on me. I think i shud view it as a favour, cus its better to know now than when we r settled, married or kids etc. Its given me a wake up call in some ways!! that ive got to stop foucsing on him so much! im not connected to him in any way, except emotionally, feelings. There is a way of, if i start to look after myself and find out who i am, i can overcome all of this. If i just stop and see, that how my boyfriend bebhaved - was his responsibitly. I did nothing wrong basically, i was there for him. the only thing i did was repsond maybe how i shud not have, but its causing me hurt. so i have to move on! The focus needs to be back on me, my needs. This whole thats inside me well it can be healed. U know everyone has there problems and well i am not excusing by boyfriends behaviour, but i wont be seeing him as a boy friend anymore. I know ive made mistakes and ive have been forgive., i need to forgive and take this as a lesson!! i know that whatever his reasons where, he has lost me in that way! and if he wants to make an effort at respecting and loving me as a friend then its ok, im happy with that. ive just got to stay strong and be there for myself in wotever way i can. Im sad dont get me wrong, but i have to look at the big picture. i want to be his friend and i know he is also working on some of his issues. I know im not ready to let go complelty but i wont keep hitting my against something for something that isnt mine to deal with, except all the hurt and dispointment!1 im more than my codepdence im a very special person!!! and if i want to cry i will.... is this making any sense. we can build a relationship slowly and c wot happens. wot do u think?
Last night i thought i was going to die! i had the shivers, cudnt eat, or barely sleep. eventually i drifted off. Im feeling a little better this morning. For you that dont know i have broken up with my boyfriend. The main reason being him cheating on me. I dont feel very good about this at all. I havent felt so sick ever in my life.
you know i know he had cheated on me. I think i shud view it as a favour, cus its better to know now than when we r settled, married or kids etc. Its given me a wake up call in some ways!! that ive got to stop foucsing on him so much! im not connected to him in any way, except emotionally, feelings. There is a way of, if i start to look after myself and find out who i am, i can overcome all of this. If i just stop and see, that how my boyfriend bebhaved - was his responsibitly. I did nothing wrong basically, i was there for him. the only thing i did was repsond maybe how i shud not have, but its causing me hurt. so i have to move on! The focus needs to be back on me, my needs. This whole thats inside me well it can be healed. U know everyone has there problems and well i am not excusing by boyfriends behaviour, but i wont be seeing him as a boy friend anymore. I know ive made mistakes and ive have been forgive., i need to forgive and take this as a lesson!! i know that whatever his reasons where, he has lost me in that way! and if he wants to make an effort at respecting and loving me as a friend then its ok, im happy with that. ive just got to stay strong and be there for myself in wotever way i can. Im sad dont get me wrong, but i have to look at the big picture. i want to be his friend and i know he is also working on some of his issues. I know im not ready to let go complelty but i wont keep hitting my against something for something that isnt mine to deal with, except all the hurt and dispointment!1 im more than my codepdence im a very special person!!! and if i want to cry i will.... is this making any sense. we can build a relationship slowly and c wot happens. wot do u think?
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i think if you follow through on all you have said, that your going to have a wonderful life of your own, taking care of yourself and loving yourself. which is what i want for me. i don't think of my boyfriend with anger anymore, he didn't cheat. broke up after 8 years. but i have to live for myself.
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I know you are hurting as I read your posts daily. I know how hard it is. I was married for 13 years and stayed through 2 affairs...I finally got up the never to leave after the 3rd. It's very paninful and it totally ruins your self-confidence. I cried daily for quite a while, but I found friends and a good church. I look back now and realize how far I've come, but at the time, I just wanted to stay in bed and die. You have to get up, get through your day and find something to fight for. Even if that is just you and your future. There is so much better out there for you. Keep writing and reaching out. Find something for you to motivate you. You will make it...it's just very hard. We are here for you.
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i felt this way on and off, mostly on for nearly 6 years and i finally pulled out of it by deciding that i truly wanted all of the things i had been begging to get from him, and accpeted that he wasn't ever going to give it no matter what he said, the truth was in his doing...
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Atta girl!!! "i wont be seeing him as a boy friend anymore" Stick to your guns... when he tries... take a deep breathe and remember your pain... Look in the mirror and love the strong woman looking back at you... ;)
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