Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
from al anon "courage to change"
I was sure there had to be somebody in this world who would understand my every mood, always have time for me, and bring a smile to my face. When that individual appeared, I'd FINALLY have the love I DESERVED. Until then, I had no choice but to wait. Poor me. What a sad and lonely life I had.
Then someone at an al anon meeting used the words "gratitude," and suddenly this whole scenario began to crumble. When I thought about how much I had to be grateful for, my fantasy showed itself to be no more than a shadow. Reality presented a different picture entirely.
There were my friends, the child who comes to me with so much trust, the co-worker who reaches out in friendship, the beloved alcoholic/addict/emotional mess in my life, the al anon members who hug me, talk with me, and encourage me. What was I doing with their love? It seemed to me I was brushing it aside for that one imaginary person or, worse, not noticing it at all.
If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has already been given to me.
"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was 'thank you,' that would suffice"
Meister Eckhart
I was sure there had to be somebody in this world who would understand my every mood, always have time for me, and bring a smile to my face. When that individual appeared, I'd FINALLY have the love I DESERVED. Until then, I had no choice but to wait. Poor me. What a sad and lonely life I had.
Then someone at an al anon meeting used the words "gratitude," and suddenly this whole scenario began to crumble. When I thought about how much I had to be grateful for, my fantasy showed itself to be no more than a shadow. Reality presented a different picture entirely.
There were my friends, the child who comes to me with so much trust, the co-worker who reaches out in friendship, the beloved alcoholic/addict/emotional mess in my life, the al anon members who hug me, talk with me, and encourage me. What was I doing with their love? It seemed to me I was brushing it aside for that one imaginary person or, worse, not noticing it at all.
If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has already been given to me.
"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was 'thank you,' that would suffice"
Meister Eckhart
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Oh how I wish I read this first and realized that this...THAT THIS!! is what I need to be looking at...not at the loss of a relationship that never was...but the relationships that is real...