Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
from al anon "courage to change"
I was sure there had to be somebody in this world who would understand my every mood, always have time for me, and bring a smile to my face. When that individual appeared, I'd FINALLY have the love I DESERVED. Until then, I had no choice but to wait. Poor me. What a sad and lonely life I had.
Then someone at an al anon meeting used the words "gratitude," and suddenly this whole scenario began to crumble. When I thought about how much I had to be grateful for, my fantasy showed itself to be no more than a shadow. Reality presented a different picture entirely.
There were my friends, the child who comes to me with so much trust, the co-worker who reaches out in friendship, the beloved alcoholic/addict/emotional mess in my life, the al anon members who hug me, talk with me, and encourage me. What was I doing with their love? It seemed to me I was brushing it aside for that one imaginary person or, worse, not noticing it at all.
If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has already been given to me.
"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was 'thank you,' that would suffice"
Meister Eckhart
I was sure there had to be somebody in this world who would understand my every mood, always have time for me, and bring a smile to my face. When that individual appeared, I'd FINALLY have the love I DESERVED. Until then, I had no choice but to wait. Poor me. What a sad and lonely life I had.
Then someone at an al anon meeting used the words "gratitude," and suddenly this whole scenario began to crumble. When I thought about how much I had to be grateful for, my fantasy showed itself to be no more than a shadow. Reality presented a different picture entirely.
There were my friends, the child who comes to me with so much trust, the co-worker who reaches out in friendship, the beloved alcoholic/addict/emotional mess in my life, the al anon members who hug me, talk with me, and encourage me. What was I doing with their love? It seemed to me I was brushing it aside for that one imaginary person or, worse, not noticing it at all.
If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has already been given to me.
"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was 'thank you,' that would suffice"
Meister Eckhart
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Oh how I wish I read this first and realized that this...THAT THIS!! is what I need to be looking at...not at the loss of a relationship that never was...but the relationships that is real...