my hub's grandpa is very ill. i'm unclear on the prognosis but truly it feels as if grandpa won't be with us much longer. hub went to visit him yesterday evening (i asked to go in support and he said no and to just stay home) and when he came home he only wanted to complain about his brother and how he isn't a good grandson and how he's missed out on so much...and i too began to 'participate' in that with comments like, 'it isn't for you to worry about' or 'that's your brother's problem' or 'you can't control him' but hub kept going i was fueling more than i was helping deescalate his growing frustration and rant. i then offered, "y'know love i think you are really scared, and your really pained at this impending loss of a love one - and y'know what else, i know it is okay to feel that way, it is okay to be scared and hurt. you don't have to cover it up with anger and frustration over your brother's poor choices." my hub hung his head and breathed deeply for about 3 mins. and picked up and moved on without another word about it. i'm not sure if i upset him, offended him or maybe hit a chord or truth inside him. either way i felt like he heard me - heard me understand something he couldn't explain to himself. it felt like i connected with him.
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