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Why is it when I finally decide to do the right thing for me, I get the most resistance? I've been in a relationship my whole entire adult life and always living with my significant other. (Not just one partner, this has been a pattern...one to the next, etc.) I made the decision to move on my own in January and I can't believe the reactions I am getting. I have a man in my life who loves me and supports my decision to be single. We are parting ways as friends and who knows what the future holds. I need to know that I can pay my own mortgage, keep my home clean, cook for myself...just be alone with me. I can't continue on down this road of cohabitation without getting to know who I am first. I don't want to be half of any relationship anymore. I am complete within me and I want to prove this to myself. The reaction of the people closest to me is so disturbing. They all think I'm out of my tree! Why would I CHOOSE to be on my own and possibly even struggle a bit, when I have a man willing to support me. Why? Because I need to before I can ever move forward in a healthy relationship! How can I know who an ideal partner for me is when I don't even know who I am?
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i think your amazing and i think you have such courage. and i say go for it. live by yourself, love yourself, for yourself, and when you know who you are, i'll bet you'll be ready for the right relationship. good luck.
deleted_user
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Bravo!
I did that a while back, and it was the best experience I ever had. It feels good to know that you can be self sufficient, and not need to cohabitate to survive. I wish you well. Find out who you are, then everything will get better.
deleted_user
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most of our society is ill and codependent.....
we realize this when we do something healthy and get negative controlling responses!
keep on your path. it is yours, no one else's......
i like to just say "thank you for your opinion" and do what i know is right for me.
congratulations!!!!
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Again I have to agree with afloat, our society and culture are extremely ill. Your greatest growth area is in YOUR resistance areas, not anyone elses. God forbid if people are allowed to make up their own minds and a "quality decision", huh? Good luck and may you find success around each corner you turn.
deleted_user
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This reminds me of a couple friends I have who are always telling me that I hope I find someone that treats me as good as their man treats them..hmmm..nice goal..but my goal for now is to learn how to treat myself good! Depended on someone else to do it for me for so long..and half the time it never even really happened. But now I have been single for almost 6 years..and I am getting better at treating myself good every day.
As far as a relationship, if I even consider accepting an offer to go out for supper or whatever, I get anxious and obessive. That alone is enough to keep me single!
deleted_user
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Thank you, friends! Sometimes I wonder if I am out of my tree by wanting to do this. Society is so geared towards the "you complete me" mentality. Every morning when I wake up I feel a slight panic at the thought of how I am going to do this on my own. Once I get my coffee and my day going I know I will be ok. Thank you for all the support and responses. Encouragement is always great when it's towards a positive and healthy goal!
deleted_user
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Yes, I support this. I am now living alone again after many years but it was not my own choice. I am realizing how impossible I find it to be alone with myself and to like and love myself. So, no wonder I find myself addicted to relationships that are bad. I cannot run and hide from me anymore.
deleted_user
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thats wonderful! If only more of us could have your courage. Thats great and even better you have support. You are not out of your tree at all. Its the smartest thing a person can do and I think everyone could benefit from learning who they are. Smart! Wish I would have done that!
ladyleo
ladyleo
Do what you need to do to find yourself its a hard road and I'm still doing it but I won't be content until I do. Take care of yourself first.
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