Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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ok new to this whole codependency thing. went out and bought codependent no more. its like someone went in my brain and wrote a book about it. nice to know that i am not alone. and light bulbs went on left and right while i was reading it. i am on chapter five now and am enthralled in this book. i do have a million questions, but cant ask them all right now. i know the book will answer a lot of them, but...

i keep reading about alanon/acoa meetings. my mom was an alcoholic and the men she was involved in were too. then, my stbx (in my opinion) is an alcoholic. was with him for more than half my life. but i no longer have active alcoholics in my life. would the alanon/acoa meetings still apply to me? would they help?

anyone attend codependent meetings? (forget the real name of them). i looked them up on the internet and there is one in my town one night a week. i am nervous and scared about going to one.

and i could go on and on with the questions, but i will leave it at this for now.

thanks for your help in advance.
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I think you could probably still get something out of Al-Anon, if nothing more than learning to process the feelings you have inside about the past. You will have some common experiences from having lived with alcoholics in the past. It's really about what you are comfortable with. If you feel you will be more comfortable with the other meetings then those are good too.
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Hi, Like with the book, hearing others(at meetings) produces a cathartic effect, which is part of the healing and growing process. So all that kind of stuff is helpful.
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I attend alanon and coda meetings although I no longer live with anyone and yes they have helped me more than I could every say! Go for it!
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thanks for the input, i wasnt sure if it would be appropriate or not.
jimmysquirrel
jimmysquirrel
yes, alanon still applies... and when you go in, you will know that
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You said in your post that you are nervous and scared about going to the meetings(and I won't tell you not to be...)

But I will say this: feel the fear and do it anyway.

This is one time that I can promise you will be glad you did!
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Alanon and coda are both good places to go for support. there are alanon meetings for those of us that used to live with alcoholics. You can go to both Alanon and coda both ..I do coda online and alanon when I can as my partner normally uses the car in the evenings to go to his NA meetings. The most important step is realizing that you need to change and begin working the steps.
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PO'sOldLady...where did you find an online meeting? I'm curious because the coda group in my area meets on a day that I'm just not able to attend because of family stuff. I went a couple of times, and wanted to continue, but I can't.
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