
Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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Hey....I think I just figured out I'm codependent. I've always heard people talk about it, but never knew what it meant or bothered to check it out. But, man....I think I am!
I was married to a minister for 13 years....he had 3 affairs and I covered up for the first 2 by blaming myself, or situations, or whatever. I did everything for him and never took care of myself. I sacrificed my career and everything for him. Now I'm divorced with 2 kids and no self-confidence. I'm trying to rebuild my life by going back to school and trying to get a higher paying job, but every interview I go into, I set myself up for failure because I know I'm not good enough.
I want people to care about me and do things for me, but whenever someone does, I feel so guilty and feel like I have to owe them the world.
I've dated several guys in the past 2 years, but every time it gets intimate, I panic and dump them.
There's a lot more...but does this sound right? Do I fit the category? What do I do now?
I was married to a minister for 13 years....he had 3 affairs and I covered up for the first 2 by blaming myself, or situations, or whatever. I did everything for him and never took care of myself. I sacrificed my career and everything for him. Now I'm divorced with 2 kids and no self-confidence. I'm trying to rebuild my life by going back to school and trying to get a higher paying job, but every interview I go into, I set myself up for failure because I know I'm not good enough.
I want people to care about me and do things for me, but whenever someone does, I feel so guilty and feel like I have to owe them the world.
I've dated several guys in the past 2 years, but every time it gets intimate, I panic and dump them.
There's a lot more...but does this sound right? Do I fit the category? What do I do now?
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ALSO, CODA IS A GREAT 12 STEP PROGRAM AND COUNSELING IS VERY HELPFUL.
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