I came across this support group and think I may need some help. I have been reading up on this issue and believe I have some of the signs but not all. I believe that I was codependent for most of my life, bad childhood, and bad marriage with an alcoholic husband that I finally left 9 years ago. I have been a single Mother of 4 since then and every one of the children has given me different issue to deal with. I think that I let people run over me, I do things that I really dont want to do to keep the peace, I worry TOO much about other peoples feelings, I want to be the peacemaker, I want everyone to get along, I hate making decisions, I do not think Im special and have depression, anxiety and IBS. Where do I start? What books or advice can you suggest? I feel better since I have been reading some of the post already but I want to be happy and quit the all the stressing so I can enjoy life. Im in a relationship now that I want to keep and make better. I dont want to push him away because Im scared of getting hurt. I know I do this also when things start getting to close and involved I start looking for reasons to call it quits. I would rather be by myself then have to worry about someone being upset with me or I didnt do this or that all the time or worry that they will decide Im not enough or I have too many issues My ex even got mad because he said I didnt clean the right room!! I think that when I left my ex husband it was the start that I needed but I find that I still have other areas that I need to work on. Any advice would be appreciated.
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