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No matter how much I do, it's never enough -- for me.
It is so easy for me to look around and notice the things that I am NOT getting right, and so easy to overlook all of the important things that I am getting right, and doing really well.
Not sure just saying this here is enough to change this dynamic.
Because of this - when people comment on how I do some things well, it's like I have this inner voice that says "yeah, but if you knew how I am messing up over there and over here, you wouldn't think I am so great".
Why do I have to be all or nothing? Good or bad? Perfect or horrible?
I have moments of peace here and there - during prayer, or meditation... but it always comes washing back over me. It feels relentless.
It is so easy for me to look around and notice the things that I am NOT getting right, and so easy to overlook all of the important things that I am getting right, and doing really well.
Not sure just saying this here is enough to change this dynamic.
Because of this - when people comment on how I do some things well, it's like I have this inner voice that says "yeah, but if you knew how I am messing up over there and over here, you wouldn't think I am so great".
Why do I have to be all or nothing? Good or bad? Perfect or horrible?
I have moments of peace here and there - during prayer, or meditation... but it always comes washing back over me. It feels relentless.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
i don't yet have my answers...
WHo is judging you but yourself...
I think if you read your own posting... you might let up a little.
God Bless
why are we never perfect?!?!?!
alright...i am going to suggest something to you... walk around tomorrow with one shoe untied... and do not tie it all day.
this is what we call "practice"...
I have gotten a lot better at letting things slide. There are many things now that don't even hit my radar that would have stressed me out before.
But I guess what saddens me is the FEELING inside... the guilt, the feeling like I am a bad person or something.
It's like I am doing so better in practice Externally in so many ways, but what remains in tact is the Inner Judge, Jury, and Executioner.
Of course, I get stuck in a vicious circle too when I think - why am I trying to be perfect by trying to feel 100% OK with being imperfect.
My life feels like a Chinese finger puzzle and I am pulling and pulling with both hands and of course, this does not work.
My MIND knows this. Some part of me INSIDE isn't going with the program.
Maybe I need to reflect on that part of me - maybe I am protecting / hiding / deflecting something.
Or just over-analyzing :)