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I AM REACHING OUT TO YOU GUYS PLEASE HELP....
ok so due to my car accident 2 weeks ago and the fact that there were no witnesses si even thoguh the lil fender bender was not my fault the ins companies have ruled 50-50 so i pay my damage he pays his - i dont have collision covaerage on my car and the damage is $$$1400.00
I dont even know if the car is worth that much but neverless I have .68 cents in the bank so I cant fix it or get another one...
so my only choice is to quit my job that i am at bc I drive 1 hr each way to get there and with no car its hard...plus i dont make much money there anyway...
the only reason i am still at this job is bc its in nj and 5 mins away from my ex and my old house and my dogs and my old life that i am still holding onto not that there is anything to hold onto...
I need some inspiration to help me through this - I am giving my 2 weeks today and I think i am losing my mind..I dont care much about the job its the leaving nj for good - right now i am living in pa and driving to nj bc i cant let go of my old life...i know its not healthy but i am not strong enough to yet... i dont want to do this bbut financially I have NO choice- I am forced into a corner and i am stuck - I know it will be better in the long run but i dont know how i will get thriough this its breaking my heart...
along with this - my ex asked for the engagment ring back i am planning on giving it back i wouldnt keep it but i am not strong enough enotionally to do that...exp.. not in the same week as i am leaving my job and i will have no more contact to nj....
I feel like i am losing control of everything...I feel like I am losing everything - I DONT WANT TO LEAVE THIS JOB I DONT WANNA LEAVE NJ....
I REALLY NEED SOME STRENGTH HERE PLEASE GUYS I AM REACHING OUT.....
ok so due to my car accident 2 weeks ago and the fact that there were no witnesses si even thoguh the lil fender bender was not my fault the ins companies have ruled 50-50 so i pay my damage he pays his - i dont have collision covaerage on my car and the damage is $$$1400.00
I dont even know if the car is worth that much but neverless I have .68 cents in the bank so I cant fix it or get another one...
so my only choice is to quit my job that i am at bc I drive 1 hr each way to get there and with no car its hard...plus i dont make much money there anyway...
the only reason i am still at this job is bc its in nj and 5 mins away from my ex and my old house and my dogs and my old life that i am still holding onto not that there is anything to hold onto...
I need some inspiration to help me through this - I am giving my 2 weeks today and I think i am losing my mind..I dont care much about the job its the leaving nj for good - right now i am living in pa and driving to nj bc i cant let go of my old life...i know its not healthy but i am not strong enough to yet... i dont want to do this bbut financially I have NO choice- I am forced into a corner and i am stuck - I know it will be better in the long run but i dont know how i will get thriough this its breaking my heart...
along with this - my ex asked for the engagment ring back i am planning on giving it back i wouldnt keep it but i am not strong enough enotionally to do that...exp.. not in the same week as i am leaving my job and i will have no more contact to nj....
I feel like i am losing control of everything...I feel like I am losing everything - I DONT WANT TO LEAVE THIS JOB I DONT WANNA LEAVE NJ....
I REALLY NEED SOME STRENGTH HERE PLEASE GUYS I AM REACHING OUT.....
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
i am a young artist. i am also a rigid east coast structure loving virgo. i have been through a couple very traumatic experiences in my life and i have found that although its painful when you lose everything, and everyone, you are the most free to become whatever you have always wanted yourself to be.
this car thing...is a minor financial setback...but it is also a divine gift. break free!! start new. do something you have never done before. open your heart. meet new friends. there is a whole wide world out there and you are the perfect woman to go out and see it and make a difference in someone's life.
you are cute and young and smart. you are well equipped to deal with this. in fact, you have much more power than you give yourself credit for you just have to tap into it.
i know it seems crazy but i look back on my most sad empty moments in life and i can feel nothing but gratitude because out of that horrible nothingness i created beauty and love. i am not the same person i was. i am so so much more beautiful and strong and sure of myself.
i get the feeling you will turn this around for yourself.
12 years ago when I lost my mind through cannibas psychosis, alcoholism and relationship addiction, I was wripped from everything I knew and was brought back "home" to another city to be cared for by a family member. I had lost everything - including my sanity. Oh, the hell of it....
Today, I see this as beautiful gift. All of this had to happen so I could rebuild anew. I was not doing what I needed to be doing to move myself forward so the Universe did it for me and stripped me of everything to force me to change which, from a soul level, was what I had chosen anyway.
It was the worst and the best thing that ever happened to me but absolutley neccesary for me to become who I am today.
Back then, the pain was so unbarable and it lasted many many years (it took me 7 years to get back to work for instance) and "the man" lived with me in my head for 10 years. We too had been engaged.
So my point is I know all this is happening for your highest good and to just keep putting one foot in front of the other each day. Just get out of bed in a morning and do what you can. Don't beat yourself up if you cannot clean your teeth or eat very well. Just keep yourself alive. That's all. The rest will come as it came for me.
Huge Hug,
Tusti XX