I'm considering going to therapy myself. But, I will say I definately want him to be awake...wide awake. My friend told me she went to a few different therapists before she felt she connected with the right one. Keep that in mind and good luck. I'll try to keep it in my own mind when I decide to go searching.

they say finding a good therapists is like finding a good pair of jeans , you need to shop around a bit to find the perfect fit !

I have been to quite a few , I am quite the fast talker and quick thinker ( you've probably noticed how looonng my posts tend to be , lol ) so some of them hid behind their prescription pads scribbling away sedatives... which I refuse to take , I was there to sort out my problems , not be medicated ( I know they can help some people , for me ... been there done that , wasn't the answer , I don't judge anyone elses choice ) , the others I think I stressed out so bad that I wanted to aske them if they needed to put their feet up and get them a pillow .
Then you get the ones that like to twist your brain in a knot with their pyscho crap ,and then you got the ones like last fall that I SWEAR ( no kidding ) I think had a thing for DF .. she actually lectured me and ganged up on me with DF about how I should be letting him take her for rides etc...
I refused to go back to her , and ended up taking DF back , and the night he came back , he admitted to having been using cocaine... UM yea lady therapist , counseling me to send my little baby girl off with someone high on cocaine .. ummmm yea . Never underestimate mothers instincts, much smarter than some lady with a peice of paper !
I'm learning you can't look at these therapists like God's they are only human , and there are good ones and not so good ones , and just becuase they hold a degree doesn't mean much sometimes .

time to get a new therapist!!!!!

What a horrible experience!
My husband and I lucked out recently and we were referred to a woman whom is 'clickable' with both of us...but I know from past experiences, on my own, how difficult it can be to find a good therapist, and one you 'click' with. Considering medical insurance and the restrictions options are limited...
I once saw a woman who actually told me that I was most likely suffering a daddy abuse issue that I am repressing and that is why I felt so destroyed by my ex-boyfriend...and after that I chose a new therpist and after one 40 min appmt. told me that he thought I was just fine, a smart girl who was processing and rationalizing and that he'd see me in 3 months!

keep looking until you find one, cause the right one is worth his/her weight in gold!
xo

http://www.lifecounselinggroup.org/pages/how_to_pick.htm

I love this... I would have just written him and note that he was fired and walked out.
BRAVO for you!!! Yes, there are alot of crappy therapists out there. But when you find a good one, they are well worth the money.
BRAVO!!! You should report him.

Get rid of him and find a new therapist.

That's horrible!! He shouldn't even be in the business if this is his reaction to listening to someone pouring themselves out to him for help!!!!

Find another therapist. I got lucky. a friend recommended my counselor to me and she's wonderful. She has a way of making me see things that I didn't know were there or didn't want to see. Not to mention certain addictions I didn't know I had.

Best of luck to you NewRain!!

T~

I've been to only 1 therapist-I guess I'm a lucky one that didn't get a quack to begin with. I really like my therapist. She's what you should look for in a therapist; objective, pays close attention to what I talk about, she's like a cheerleader for me when I have a situation to tackle, she asks me questions that help to clarify feelings or emotions. NEVER once has she even come close to falling asleep. I would be ticked off if someone I was paying good money to for their insight and guidance fell asleep while I was talking. Doesn't matter what the reason is. It's extremely unproffessional of your therapist to do that and then cop an attitude like that. Toss him!! Better yet, if you do go back and it happens again, really call him out: "Why are you falling asleep? I'm paying you to listen to me, NOT to take a nap when I'm here.

Sounds good to me. Perhaps your decision will wake his ass up.

Haha That's a first! Good for you!

HOW DO I CHOOSE A THERAPIST?
Make sure the therapist is licensed or certified. However, a license does not guarantee high quality--it is just a minimum standard.

Shop around for a good match between you and a therapist. Begin trusting your inner wisdom, based on some of the ideas presented here.

If a therapist discourages shopping around, they may not have confidence in their own abilities nor be the therapist for you.

Personal recommendations give you some confidence and insight into a potential therapist and is one of your best bets.

However, don't choose one just because your friend or relative likes the therapist. Take recommendations more seriously when the people making the suggestions have shown significant and visible changes in behavior and attitude during their therapy and can articulate what is working for them.

Don't pick a therapist solely from the Yellow Pages, a website or an advertisement. Picking a therapist at random or "lottery style" does not give you enough information. Use some of the other suggestions in this list too.

Use a credible referral source. Getting a referral from your physician, pastor, other therapist, or school counselor can give you more possibilities. Regardless of the source of referral, use your own best judgment and apply the checklist ("What To Look For In A Therapist") to your possible choices.

Don't choose a therapist just because s/he is on your insurance provider's list. Insurance companies' panels do not always translate into high quality providers. Managed care does guarantee minimum qualifications such as license and professional office, but usually limits number of sessions, and places restrictions on the flexibility, creativity and professional experience of your therapist.

Consider the possibility of paying out-of-pocket for your therapist of choice. Often we get what we pay for.

If your therapist of choice is not on your insurance providers list, you can change your plan to an old-fashioned fee-for-service indemnity plan. It will give you the freedom to choose any psychotherapist (or any physician, hospital, etc.) you desire. If your employer does not provide such a plan, request it. Some insurance companies pay for outside providers with a higher co-payment from you.

Yes you need a new therapist...One that is capable of doing their job.