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............ a friggen JOKE !
I don't think I am going to go back to him .
At first I really liked him the first couple sessions. He is into a holistic approach , and I found him right up my alley .
But he nods out throughout my appt :-(
As soon as I start talking he falls asleep , its REALLY bothering me .
Learnign all that I am about codependent behaviour , I feel this is stifling my recovery by continuing to go there and lie to myself . WHY should I worry about offending this therapists feeling at the expense of my own feelings ?
I have been asking myself these sorts of questions .
And today I told myself if he falls asleep on me again , I am going to make my decision... no excuses of feeling sorry for him ( maybe he is working too much , maybe he isn't eating right, maybe its cause he is older , blah blah blah, the excuses I make for people )
I attentitively listened while he wide awake told me how his trip to Europe went , then when he asked me how I've been and I began to talk aobut it he started dozing off , he even slurred !
I clapped my hands loud , and I said "WAKKKKE UP!"
He actually startled , lol ..
and said "oh I'm awake " and acted almost mad at me for calling him out .
So I will follow thru on the boundry I set for myself ... I will be seeking out a NEW ,... AWAKE therapist :-)
I don't think I am going to go back to him .
At first I really liked him the first couple sessions. He is into a holistic approach , and I found him right up my alley .
But he nods out throughout my appt :-(
As soon as I start talking he falls asleep , its REALLY bothering me .
Learnign all that I am about codependent behaviour , I feel this is stifling my recovery by continuing to go there and lie to myself . WHY should I worry about offending this therapists feeling at the expense of my own feelings ?
I have been asking myself these sorts of questions .
And today I told myself if he falls asleep on me again , I am going to make my decision... no excuses of feeling sorry for him ( maybe he is working too much , maybe he isn't eating right, maybe its cause he is older , blah blah blah, the excuses I make for people )
I attentitively listened while he wide awake told me how his trip to Europe went , then when he asked me how I've been and I began to talk aobut it he started dozing off , he even slurred !
I clapped my hands loud , and I said "WAKKKKE UP!"
He actually startled , lol ..
and said "oh I'm awake " and acted almost mad at me for calling him out .
So I will follow thru on the boundry I set for myself ... I will be seeking out a NEW ,... AWAKE therapist :-)
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I have been to quite a few , I am quite the fast talker and quick thinker ( you've probably noticed how looonng my posts tend to be , lol ) so some of them hid behind their prescription pads scribbling away sedatives... which I refuse to take , I was there to sort out my problems , not be medicated ( I know they can help some people , for me ... been there done that , wasn't the answer , I don't judge anyone elses choice ) , the others I think I stressed out so bad that I wanted to aske them if they needed to put their feet up and get them a pillow .
Then you get the ones that like to twist your brain in a knot with their pyscho crap ,and then you got the ones like last fall that I SWEAR ( no kidding ) I think had a thing for DF .. she actually lectured me and ganged up on me with DF about how I should be letting him take her for rides etc...
I refused to go back to her , and ended up taking DF back , and the night he came back , he admitted to having been using cocaine... UM yea lady therapist , counseling me to send my little baby girl off with someone high on cocaine .. ummmm yea . Never underestimate mothers instincts, much smarter than some lady with a peice of paper !
I'm learning you can't look at these therapists like God's they are only human , and there are good ones and not so good ones , and just becuase they hold a degree doesn't mean much sometimes .
My husband and I lucked out recently and we were referred to a woman whom is 'clickable' with both of us...but I know from past experiences, on my own, how difficult it can be to find a good therapist, and one you 'click' with. Considering medical insurance and the restrictions options are limited...
I once saw a woman who actually told me that I was most likely suffering a daddy abuse issue that I am repressing and that is why I felt so destroyed by my ex-boyfriend...and after that I chose a new therpist and after one 40 min appmt. told me that he thought I was just fine, a smart girl who was processing and rationalizing and that he'd see me in 3 months!
xo
BRAVO for you!!! Yes, there are alot of crappy therapists out there. But when you find a good one, they are well worth the money.
BRAVO!!! You should report him.
Find another therapist. I got lucky. a friend recommended my counselor to me and she's wonderful. She has a way of making me see things that I didn't know were there or didn't want to see. Not to mention certain addictions I didn't know I had.
Best of luck to you NewRain!!
T~
Make sure the therapist is licensed or certified. However, a license does not guarantee high quality--it is just a minimum standard.
Shop around for a good match between you and a therapist. Begin trusting your inner wisdom, based on some of the ideas presented here.
If a therapist discourages shopping around, they may not have confidence in their own abilities nor be the therapist for you.
Personal recommendations give you some confidence and insight into a potential therapist and is one of your best bets.
However, don't choose one just because your friend or relative likes the therapist. Take recommendations more seriously when the people making the suggestions have shown significant and visible changes in behavior and attitude during their therapy and can articulate what is working for them.
Don't pick a therapist solely from the Yellow Pages, a website or an advertisement. Picking a therapist at random or "lottery style" does not give you enough information. Use some of the other suggestions in this list too.
Use a credible referral source. Getting a referral from your physician, pastor, other therapist, or school counselor can give you more possibilities. Regardless of the source of referral, use your own best judgment and apply the checklist ("What To Look For In A Therapist") to your possible choices.
Don't choose a therapist just because s/he is on your insurance provider's list. Insurance companies' panels do not always translate into high quality providers. Managed care does guarantee minimum qualifications such as license and professional office, but usually limits number of sessions, and places restrictions on the flexibility, creativity and professional experience of your therapist.
Consider the possibility of paying out-of-pocket for your therapist of choice. Often we get what we pay for.
If your therapist of choice is not on your insurance providers list, you can change your plan to an old-fashioned fee-for-service indemnity plan. It will give you the freedom to choose any psychotherapist (or any physician, hospital, etc.) you desire. If your employer does not provide such a plan, request it. Some insurance companies pay for outside providers with a higher co-payment from you.