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My need to be accepted is out of control!

deleted_user
deleted_user
I was recently dating someone and we broke up. He said I was too needed and constantly acted life he was my ex-husband. During the time that we were apart, I ran into an old high school mate and we began seeing each other.

Well, my ex boyfriend calls and wanted us to get back together. He asked if I had been intimate with anyone and I said yes. All thing went to hell after that. He said that he could not trust me and that he needs to think about whether or not to pursue a relationship now.

Well, I have almost been begging the man to stay. I love him but I know I am trying too hard to get him back. This is stupid and I know it. The more I write about it, the more I know I need to just let the chips fall where they may and stop calling, texting and emailing him that I am sorry.

How do I get pass this and move on with my life? I feel so nervous and anxious about this and I know it is not healthy.
mgs1
mgs1
THe good news is you know it isn't healthy. AND by the way if he thought your were too needy before - that is not going to change. You broke up for a reason and it sounds like you've learned some valuable lessons. I salute you for acknowledging what you have. Set some boundaries for yourself and others. You are your own person and he should not be dictating to you who you see or what you do.
Good Luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks for your response. I am so confused about what I want out of life. Too bad someone cant give us the answer, right? Well, I will see what happens.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think our assignment is to love and accept ourselves. Then we won't be so needy for others to accept us.

You didn't do anything incorrect with respect to your ex. Someone who breaks up with someone they consider needy usually comes to the same conclusion again and walks again. You don't want that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Restored, how sorry can you keep being? Listen, we ALL make mistakes and I highly questions those that stand in judgement like they have never erred. Enough with the apologies!!! You are special and you don't have to keep proving yourself to anyone. You keep going forth, believe in yourself and find someone that believes in you too. I know one thing, I need someone in my life that understands and accepts that I have made mistakes and I probably will make more. Those that have a finger pointing AT us, have three pointing back at themselves.
(((Hugs))
EllaBlue
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