Wow! How tricky decisions can be - when I can make a decision!! I used to look at motives to keep me out of the codependency \"triangle\". I don\'t like to play games. Yesterday I had to make decisions and look at motives again. Do I \"hang out and go to a meeting\"? Before it was out of clingyness and a \"need\" to be with my guy. Last night my desire to NOT go was to rebel because he actually invited me along (what I\'ve always wanted)... oops - sabotage? I went along for the right motive and am glad I did cuz I heard things I needed to hear - and rebelling would\'ve been the wrong motive! Also last night, he doesn\'t want some gifts so my initial reaction was to return them today when we could be spending time together... rebellion again. Wrong motive. I decided to run errands and to return them anyway. The motive changed though and I\'m doing it because I want to get the errands done. We\'ll have time to spend together later. How do you all deal with decisions and motives? Would love input.
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