I was just wondering if one can be considered co-dependent if all but one relationship is in balance. My relationships with my family and other friends and co-workers are all pretty ok. I generally express myself well, can say no, don't feel any real need to be one thing to any of them. However, my relationship with my SO has looked very different. At times past, I have merged into one with this person, lost my identity in the relationship, am totally controlled by their emotions, feel lost when they are not around. I'm obviously working on all this, but am struggling this evening with a lot of these questions (because I'm alone tonight and some of those old demon feelings are surfacing...) and was reading Beattie's book and it just struck me how UNLIKE her descriptions fit every other relationship except the romantic one. What's up with that? Any thoughts? Can codependence be particular to one relationship? I used to be so independent and still am generally...but this relationship just seemed to take me over.
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