i am married mom of 3 to a recently recovering alchoholic. been married for 14 years & this is the first time he has been sober. it has been over 60 days & he is doing great. i'm still trying to get a grasp on my codependency. as a result of my personality & codependency i suffer from chronic feelings of guilt & due to years of allowing myself to be a doormat i am now dealing with resentment. i have read codependent no more & working on the follow up book but i am having trouble with the twelve steps. i think i need thiot guide to codependency. also just started reading women who love to much. i feel much of my resentment comes from unmet needs & my inability to ask for what i want or need. i am unable to ask for anything without feeling guilty or selfish. then i feel angry & resentful b/c i give so much & get little in return. i have problems communicating my needs to my husband especially now that he is sober b/c i'm so proud of his recovery & do not want to burden him. i'm on a terrible rollercoaster of emotions. looking for any advice on ow to ask for what i want & need, how to say no, how to stop feeling guilty & resentful. how to get through the twelve steps.
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