I felt the need to post this information to others. In general, most of the postings I read by us are skipping over a major factor of who we are at the core, what we do when we are in relationships and why we do it. Love Addiction is a fairly new concept in comparison to other addictions. After hitting rock bottom recently again, after research and reading "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody, I was able to look and see clearly who I was. This book made me fall to my knees. It is not necessarily indicative of all co-dependents, but to many stories and experiences lead me to conclude that this is at the heart of the matter for me as well as others. I am wishing all of us good emotional recovery, health, happiness, and the chance to find true real and lasting love. Synonymous with all recovery programs, we must experience selflove before we can truly love some one else.

Visit this website:

http://loveaddicts.org/sexaddiction.htm

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Love Addicts Anonymous

Sex Addiction

Are sex addiction and love addiction the same thing? No! sex addicts are addicted to the sexual experience. The goal is orgasm. Emotional intimacy is not important. Many professionals believe that the preoccupation with sex is an attempt to avoid emotional intimacy by connecting with someone sexually.

Love addiction, on the other hand, comes in many forms, all them different from sex addiction. Some love addicts carry a torch for unavailable people. Some love addicts obsess when they fall in love. Some love addicts get addicted to the euphoric effects of romance. Others cannot let go of a toxic relationship even if they are unhappy, depressed, lonely, neglected or in danger. Some love addicts are codependent and others are narcissistic. Some love addicts use sex to manage feelings; others are sexually anorexic. The common denominator is this: unlike sex addicts, love addicts crave an emotional connection and will avoid at any cost separation anxiety and loneliness.

Can you be both a sex addict and love addict? Yes! But the members of this group are only here to help you with your love addiction. See our links pages for information about other addictions.

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Love Addicts Anonymous

The Twelve Promises

I have a new sense of freedom because I am letting go of the past.
I am hopeful about my future relationships.
I can be attracted to someone without falling in love overnight, and I can fall in love without obsessing.
If love does overwhelm me I do not act out in addictive ways.
I can tell the difference between fantasies and reality.
I do not have to control the ones I love nor let them control me.
I experience relationships one at a time and I do not get involved with unavailable people.
If my basic needs are not being met, I can end my relationship.
I can leave anyone who is abusing me either verbally or physically.
I do not do for others what they should be doing for themselves.
I love myself as much as I love others.
I look to my Higher Power for strength, guidance, and the willingness to change.