Hi, I am new to this sort of thing, but need help. I have been married for 18 yrs. I have three kids 17,12, and 10. The first part of september my wife (who I have built my world around) told me that she had been seeing someone else. It wasnt sexual but it was phisical.I was at this time told that she needed me to leave so she could figure stuff out.She had no feelings at all and just numb. ofcourse I put this off as long as I could, and Here is where I have found myself in a panic,crisis,emergancy, and desperate attempt to hold on as tight as I can. I have been in the codependat no more book. It describes every attempt that I have made to hold my family together.I have also found that she may be as codependant as me, but she says she has delt with all her stuff. My wife has stopped the relationship and told me that she got more from this man in two months than she did from me in 18 yrs.I still feel lost,and hurt feelings that I am trying to deal with, but I am doing better.She is very cold and has walled me out. I am in counceling and attending my first intensive workshop today. Any encouraging thoughts will help.Thanks.
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