
Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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If we as co-dependents didn't come across needy people, co-dependency would not necessarily rear its head? Also, emeshment occurs too.
If you are not in touch with your feelings and have always bottled things up, it would take you years to find out you are co-dependent as it did me. A lot of denial and shame occurs before you seek help by which point a lot of emotional torture has been gone through.
Co-dependency is not well known as the other addictions so it would take longer to even know let alone acknowledge you have a problem.
I hadn't even heard of co-dependency before I was told I was co-dependent.
If you are not in touch with your feelings and have always bottled things up, it would take you years to find out you are co-dependent as it did me. A lot of denial and shame occurs before you seek help by which point a lot of emotional torture has been gone through.
Co-dependency is not well known as the other addictions so it would take longer to even know let alone acknowledge you have a problem.
I hadn't even heard of co-dependency before I was told I was co-dependent.

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I know what you mean I never thought I had any addictions until my husband became sick from his alcoholism. Now I realize that I am codependent, addicted to cigarettes, food and a few other things.

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Yes, it has taken me years to see my own codependency in full-size. I cannot believe now to what extent i have gone through that emotional torture you are describing. I am better now, but still have issues to address. Some of my codependency traits are still triggered more by certain types of people. I've known shame since childhood. Now i'm beginning to feel better about myself -but there is still a long road before me.

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yeah ... i am very in touch w/my feelings so there are times i feel stupid because i know i am feeling dependent on my fiance and it makes me feel kinda annoying and pathetic. not too often because he is usually always around ... but sometimes the thought of being alone for too long makes me panic. its like a comfort thing also ... i am the most comfortable when i am with him, because he is my fiance and we are so close, and because i am not alone i have his company ... so even when i am with other people, sometimes i still feel alone because i am not as connected with them and i cant completely relax.
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