Yes it does. It's not a way to live life. Well, that's how I've been living my life for so many years. I guess I've practiced living that way for many years, so I have to practice NOT living that way for many more years. I'll start by tonight not dwelling on the fact that I have absolutely no potential for a relationship right now and just LIVE and enjoy in the now. Somewhere inside me there is the capacity to create enjoyment in solitude. Somewhere.

Rruusnn.. though I agree with you that we should all live in the present moment -- the now... even Tolle would agree that it is living in the past and fearing the future to believe such a statement of "absolutely no potential for a relationship". If you allow what is, the present moment, then anything can exist as long as we are not closed off to opportunities. As codependents, though, we just need to be conscious of our behaviors that may lead us into trouble.

heres a thing...i am a very anxious person by nature, i think too much. so i find Tolle's work too hard to take, as it requires to much analysis for me and i start to worry too much...

It sucks b/c it's there in every aspect of my life, not only in the way I handle romantic relationships.
It's in the way I control my own thoughts, it's in the way I speak to my kids, it's in the way I overprotect my kids, it's in the incapability of living in the now, and in the way I want others to understand me and share my point of view, it's in my unwillingness to compromise and many other things...
In short, it's in every vain of my body, and it's going to take so much effort and time to get it out!

I understand...:-)
I think of CoDependency as any other problem and condition, we humans have. I don't think of this condition as a crutch, or a disease. I do try and look for the positive in it. It's put me closer to God. It's allowed me to lose some of my anger, and understand it. It's put me in touch with others who have had diverse and challenging lives. Through it, I think I'm better person, since I realized I wasn't in control of my life, only my behavior.
It's also allowed me to stop looking at the negative and trust life a little, without allowing my history to rule my emotions.
"The Wind"
The wind prevaricates it's woes to be,
It's path upon one's weary head.
Churning, twirling, spinning,
with no gantry upon this stead.

Here we see, what we became,
out of the tumult and turning.
Of life's participation of the shame.
the debits of good learning.

Our daily struggles we abhor,
out of acceptance, we create a defender.
the din shall hold us no more,
we have been tousled into surrender.

In our new found freedom we delight,
our courage and patience to change,
Our thoughts no longer focus on spite,
our own effervescence to re-arrange.
"Hamster"