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Is this normal!

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Hey all

i just wanted some advice really!! Am trying real hard to break away from my b/f! i have tried to talk to him many times about his behaviour! for those of you that dont know! he had a one nite F'''CK... when i was in barcelona! he said that all it was was that! he wants me to forget about it, so we can move on!! i dont think its so easy, like turning on a light swtich! He said to me y r u bneing such a bitch about this! is tht normal!! i said i will be talking about us! in my therapy sessions, he called my therapidt a twat, and a wiesal! i felt so shaken up by this and felt it was wrong. he also caleld my friend a bitch becuase she thought that she saw him with another girl!! I know this is not right is it?
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deleted_user
No... it's not normal and it's not right...
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I was in a similar situation and i still stuck and stayed..i blotted out the pain..But what happened after was so much more painful than anything i have ever experienced...Once the relationship ended as they always will i lost my identity and all levels of self worth...i was completely broken..It took alot of suffering and pain to get this process they call recovery..doesnt have to be that way for all..Get to a meeting or 2 in your area..keep reaching out like you are...the time will come and you will grow unlike anything you have ever experienced...there is hope..This is about changing our thinking and behavior..going against the grain...Get some good woman around you that understand the disease...stay honest and you will break free if you are willing to change your life
good luck
hugs
james
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Pam,,
Have you thought about joining the Infidelity forum here on DS? There are some wonderful people on there that can help you with the pain! I do agree that allot of the being able to let go is the copd thing! Been there, still there! but the pain of having the one you love cheat on you is probably the worst there is and I know that cause been there and done that also! Please join us over there,, they are all very understanding and you will find someone to chat with that is going through this just as you are!
Bless you, and I am here if you need me!
Jerrie
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No its not normal but I think you probably already know this
deep down inside. You deserve better.
ladyleo
ladyleo
It called Verbal abuse, and emotional abuse. Thats all there is to it. How much will you put up with?
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Pamela-He is controlling your mind. Don't give him the satisfaction. Tell him that if holding him accountable for his inappropriate behavior is being a bitch, than that's his problem, not yours. The only way you're going to get over it, is to move forward and beyond it without him. No one deserves to be treated like that-NO ONE! *hugs*
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