I've not only been used/abused by my exbf, i'm beginning to see i've being used by his mom too. Sadly, within the last 2 weeks I had a relapse and have had communication/involvement with my ex, his mom was aware, infact she's encouraged it. Easter she calls me upset, he was over for dinner and asked if his exwife could join. now why did share with me, and also, she's 73, her home, she could of said no. instead she calls me upset, i in turn call him/her, tell him take a hike for the 100th time and tell her she was disrespectful to his mom. I guess I did the oscar attempt at codependency. Now its part of the cycle, where i'm the bad guy, no communication from her/him, which is fine, but the mind games begin, she has her grandson call me to see if i can get him a summer job at my work, she called me tonite to let me know i need to find a man and get involved. mind games mind games mind games....i've been involved with a group of toxic people. i've been keeping my cell phone off, not sending emails to any of them, perhaps they are pissed i'm standing my ground. Not sure, i'm not going to feel like the bad guy and i'm sure as heck not going to buckle again and fall into the codependent web. Has anyone experienced family codpendency issues like this?
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