Well, I have been with the most wonderful woman for 10 months and we are engaged and live together. The first 6 months of our relationship she and I spent every second together and shut the world out. Now she is wanting to spend time with friends and go out sometimes. I know she loves me, I know it is good for us to do things apart. I trust her....etc. I have always been the smothered one in my relationships. I have always had a lot of friends and knew how to have fun and miss that person in a healthy way. Now I am devestated when she wants to do something without me. I miss her so much it hurts. I also have realized that I still have friends but they are all engaged, married with kids, working at night etc. I know I need to try to make new ones but I am so upset when she leaves I have a headache and feel like crying and dont even know where to start. I have depression issues, I am on meds, I go to counseling but still cannot seem to find a way to stop this feeling. This has never happened to me. The worst part is I throw a fit and cry and guilt her so it makes her want to go do things more without me. Then I am even more miserable when she is gone because I know she is annoyed or mad at me. I am afraid if I keep this up I will lose her. She is not doing anything wrong ...I see the whole cycle over and over and swear I wont do it again but it seems like I cant stop myself. Now she just expects it. Please help me find a way to stop myself!! It doesnt make sense to me that I can see it all happening, know it only make things worse but still keep doing it!
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