Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
So i'm codependent. How did i get this way? I had a great childhood, no alcoholism, drug abuse or any abuse. Now I am struggling with hearing what I really want, doing what I really want and being who I really am. Can one bad relationship make me codependent? Am i not stronger than that?? i just don't get it.
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Hi, Codependent ways can be found in the 'best' of families. I don't believe a person does codependent ways for the first time in adulthood. Its not about strength, its about trying to make a whole.
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i just can't find where it was before this relationship. I'm still looking but I don't see it at this point.
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Maybe the person you had the relationship with had such control over you that THAT SPECIFIC relationship you are codependent on. Not relationships in general.
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One bad relationship can bring out the natural codependancies. It is hard to recognize when you are in the thick of things. You don't really start to get a true picture until you are out of it. I had some codepenant tendancies before I got married. My ex is a textbook narcissist, and was abused sexually as a child. I didn't realize it at first but my "Rescue gene" kicked in and I entered into a relationship with her. It eventually tore me apart. Now that I am out of it, and I can look back and see things I realize that I was feeding a fire that was consuming me. I swear that all I could say for a couple of days was "Woah!! how did that happen". Yes you are stronger than that , but a bad relationship has a way of beating down the doors per se.
jimmysquirrel
codependency is not racist, sexist, elitist, or preferential in any way.
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