I just left my boyfriend of a year two weeks ago, we have been struggling some time on maintaining a happy relationship. I am 27 and he is 30 He is definitely self absorbed and fits the narcissistic personality. I guess I just got tired of always trying to fix things and wondering "what Im doing wrong because everything is my fault, in his eyes". I couldnt give anymore so I told him I needed a break, I wanted him to go back to therapy and really figure out if he wanted this relationship. We went ring shopping in may, he has told me that I am the one, but he has a fear of committment (never created on me). I couldnt take hearing from him that he would marry me if, fill in the blank, their was always something I didnt do right. I know that the problem is with him and how he views things. So I wanted a beak so he could work on himself because He has said he doesnt like being like this and Im tired of the rollercoaster ride. He is like a tornado, I never know when he is going to touch down and bring choas to everything. He didnt want a break saying that everything will change and that him going back to therapy is great but he wants to be together while he does this. We have tried it his way to many times, I needed to do something different by leaving and see if overtime we are really meant to be together. At first he agreed for an undetermined amount of time to work on his issues. But then two days later he said through a text message that I should move on because he is not comeing back. We havent spoke or communicated since. I feel that this is his last way of touching down and leaving me blindsided. It has been really hard not to call him, I know that this is a sign I should listen too, that I need to move on.. Its so hard I need some advice on what I should do. I know that calling him wont make me feel better to know why he feels this way. I second guess myself thinking I shouldn't have asked for a break, I didnt know what to expect, I just knew I couldn't continue in a relationship like this. I think I may be in denial, I go through the day numb and sometimes get emotional. Its really hard not to stay in bed all day in a warm safe place. I need help/advice on how to keep on going and not turning to my bed for too much comfort. I do see a therapist that helps, and I try to "act as if" most days but im still struggling. Help
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