I've recently (2 months ago) discovered my codependency. My extremely low self-esteem has caused me to try to control my wife through manipulation, coercion, shame, guilt, you name it. I've accused her of cheating when she's been nothing but faithful for 15 years. Recently for our 15th anniversary, I pushed her over the edge. She only asked for one thing space - I couldn't even give her that, I constantly tried to talk to her, read her journal, facebook entries, anything that would tell me what's happening with her. Finally, she and I agreed that we need to separate. How do I actually stop trying to control her - I do love her and want to change my warped sense of love so I can be healthy. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
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