hi everyone im new to this community. the reason im here... ive diagnosed my husband as codependant. i have an eating disorder which i know is hard for him to deal with and i always try to see things from his view as he tries to see things from mine. im working hard on my recovery these days and it seems the stronger i get the more worried he becomes. i know he wants me to just be well, of course. it seems he might not like strong aimee very much. this scares me. ive done a lot of thinking(and the 2 of us have done a lot of talking) and i think hes always taken care of me, i know he has. from my illness to my lack of independance, all the way back to highschool when we'd get in trouble, he was always the one to bail me out. i think hes stuck in his roll of enabler and the one to always take care of things. (daddy's the sane one, thank god) but im feeling this incredible need to start taking care of things myself. and of course we both see this as a good thing. but the more i feel capable i think the less he does. i almost understand what hes going thru, when one has an eating disorder one thinks they have that aspect of thier lives under control when in fact its the opposite, its very much out of control. i dunno we've talked it to death, he doesnt think he has any recovery of his own to work on, he feels he has nothing to recover from. he does. just venting, any thoughts?
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