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Hope for Today - November 7
.... I had a habit of doing the same thing over and over
again and expecting different results. After
discussing this matter with a friend, I was given an
exercise to practice.
.... When someone says something to me and I have a
strong reaction -- wanting to cry, wanting to rage,
or thinking I am inferior -- I stop and visualize two
doors. One is marked "Same old, same old" or "My
will." The other is marked "New and different" or
"God's will." On seeing these two doors, I imagine
opening mine and viewing what I would normally say
or do in this situation. Then I close my door and
open God's.
.... By the time I have done all this, I've given myself
several moments between the initial comment and my
impulsive reaction. This gives me time to practice
the slogan "Think" and to choose a healthier
response. I've not had a single regret-filled
incident since I began to practice this self-
restraint. Ironically, most times what's behind
God's door is absolutely nothing. What a message!
Could this possibly mean that other people's
behavior belongs to them and I don't have to make
it mine by reacting to it?
Thought for the Day
..... Practicing detachment before I react allows me
to maintain self-esteem by choosing my response.
.... .... "We need to recognize our own reactions. Then
.... .... we can decide whether we want to continue
.... .... reacting in the same old ways, or if maybe we
.... .... want to try something new."
..... ..... ..... *Courage to Be Me*, p. 123
.... I had a habit of doing the same thing over and over
again and expecting different results. After
discussing this matter with a friend, I was given an
exercise to practice.
.... When someone says something to me and I have a
strong reaction -- wanting to cry, wanting to rage,
or thinking I am inferior -- I stop and visualize two
doors. One is marked "Same old, same old" or "My
will." The other is marked "New and different" or
"God's will." On seeing these two doors, I imagine
opening mine and viewing what I would normally say
or do in this situation. Then I close my door and
open God's.
.... By the time I have done all this, I've given myself
several moments between the initial comment and my
impulsive reaction. This gives me time to practice
the slogan "Think" and to choose a healthier
response. I've not had a single regret-filled
incident since I began to practice this self-
restraint. Ironically, most times what's behind
God's door is absolutely nothing. What a message!
Could this possibly mean that other people's
behavior belongs to them and I don't have to make
it mine by reacting to it?
Thought for the Day
..... Practicing detachment before I react allows me
to maintain self-esteem by choosing my response.
.... .... "We need to recognize our own reactions. Then
.... .... we can decide whether we want to continue
.... .... reacting in the same old ways, or if maybe we
.... .... want to try something new."
..... ..... ..... *Courage to Be Me*, p. 123
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
"Hope for Today"
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