I was dating a guy for one year, who had lost his wife. He pushed and pulled, and dangled the bait, everytime I got tired. One week after a month break he said he was ready for more serious relationship but I new he couldn't have changed in one week without changing himself. I was afraid of his "change" and he still couldn't tell me if he was in love with me becasue he didn't know So after a few drinks too many I picked an argument and pushed him away (one month ago) He never has been able to talk about this situation for the last month as I tried. Now he says he is not ready for a relationship and what do I think about that? (He told me on the phone!) I said what does it matter what I think and why talk on the phone. He said he had time next week to talk. What is a good non codependent response? He is not ready to talk now if he couldn't talk last month. Do I pick up the phone when he calls to meet to talk?... Why do I love him still love him?... Codependency at its finest... please help
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