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Do i even know what i am doing!! I am seeing my b/f, for the last 7 months, and its been rocky, as he cheated in the first 5 weeks. Half of me feels bad, and worthless and direspected cus of this. We have both developed deep feelings for each other. The thing that is bothering me is that we are limited to what we do, cus he doesnt work. Im not made of money. Hes quite spiritual and well we can talk about things openly. I think i need to break away alittle, see less of him rite now. I really dont know wat im doing everyone. what should i do???
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well, i'm not a relationship expert, but it appears to me that you are being taken advantage of. why doesn't he work? it is hard to recover from infedility in a relationship, though it can happen....especially if both parties are willing to work on things....
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but, mostly what stood out to me in your post was that you thought you needed a break...so i think that's what you should do, take a break and get some space...
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Hi!
Have you talked over the cheating issue with your boyfriend? You said that you two can talk about things openly... I'd think the first order of biz you clearing the air about those negative feeling you have.
You also have an issue about work/money. That shouldn't be piled in on top of the cheating, that's a separate issue. If you want to take a break from him while you work through the cheating that's one thing.
If your boyfriend doesn't have money, is there anybody else who would be willing to help him in while you resolve the cheating issue?
Once you get that figured out then you can work on your money issues.
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hi pamela. Does some part of you know that you should break away a little, but some other part of you can't seem to do it?
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If you feel you need a break, then you probably do. As far as him not working, I was in a relationship (very open, sexual, etc) but he was very sporadic and I paid for virtually everything for five years. I paid for not only our living expenses, but vacations, dinners, ect. This became a very big issue with me because I felt taken advantage of big time. Unemployment happens to people, but if he doesn't seriously make an effort to get a job soon, I would consider stepping away from him. Sometimes, when you are paying for everything, it gives that other person a crutch (at least with mine) Good luck to you and take care of YOU. LOL
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