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I had to lock my son out last night because we have this new plan that in order to sleep at home, he needs to go to school and be home by 10:00
He didn't go to school..so I stuck to my guns. Even though he thought I had gone insane. I NEVER STICK TO MY GUNS. I have been making useless threats to this child for years!
Well..now its pouring out. and he didn't go to school again today.
and I am stting here feeling guilty. ARGGGG
I know I am doing the right thing. Everyone keeps telling me I am. But why doesn't it feel that way?
Only a codependent person would feel guilty for doing the right thing. cripes.
He didn't go to school..so I stuck to my guns. Even though he thought I had gone insane. I NEVER STICK TO MY GUNS. I have been making useless threats to this child for years!
Well..now its pouring out. and he didn't go to school again today.
and I am stting here feeling guilty. ARGGGG
I know I am doing the right thing. Everyone keeps telling me I am. But why doesn't it feel that way?
Only a codependent person would feel guilty for doing the right thing. cripes.
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It sounds as if he does not have the respect for you as a parent that he should. Stick to your guns.
I had to do that with my daughter. Basically looked her in the eye and said - no more of this s#&t!. I layed out the rules. She broke them, and I followed through.
Did I feel guilty - yes. But it was for her own good.
Rules are rules.
I think maybe it doesn't feel right because we train ourselves to do it the other way and we get comfortable with it. I keep hearing it gets easier with practice. So maybe it is just a matter of doing it until it becomes more of a habit and then evolves into something we are comfortable with.
Kids pay attention at any age. They know just what to say or do to wear us down. And they learn just how we will respond. Yes, they are very manipulative.
Hold on, and remember, you are doing the right thing. Some of those things that are the BEST thing for everyone, are the hardest to do.
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EllaBlue
Kids pay attention at any age. They know just what to say or do to wear us down. And they learn just how we will respond. Yes, they are very manipulative.
Hold on, and remember, you are doing the right thing. Some of those things that are the BEST thing for everyone, are the hardest to do.
(((Hugs)))
EllaBlue
but the consequences of the behavior is the only way we learn.
you are doing the right thing b/c obviously you are changing the way you are doing things.
resistance will be there but if you vigilantly enforce those boundaries eventually they are respected.
eventually may mean a long time, but it gets easier.