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got into it w/psych

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I got into it with the psych. who heads my therapy group.
A member had left the group, without saying.
The psych. asked if anyone else was leaving. I said that I was thinking about it.
She said why don't you just leave now then!
I got mad and said are you having feelings jane?
Then I get a letter in the mail from her. She says that I was responsible for her getting upset and saying that. She put a nice psych label on it. She called it projection identification.
I told my individual therapist (her boss). He said that she overreacted. And he said I overreacted.
I said I GET TO OVERREACT I'M THE PATIENT!

What do you think?
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I don't know, that sounds like strange behavior coming from a therapist. Can you just meet with your individual therapist, or could he set you up with another? There's not many details to go off of here - but it sounds like there was a lead-up-to this scenario.

It's always important for me to have accountability for my actions as well - to see the part I played. If you did this could you find your own unique solution to this problem?
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OMG, it sounds like they are projecting onto you. Have you thought about seeking another group?
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That is so uncalled for from a professional!! It's the few bad apples that stink up the whole basket and make it MORE difficult for the rest of us that truly want to help others, in that field. I agree with faith01 and you are right, you are the patient you're trying to be mentored by someone that apparently does not know how to accept answers to her own questions and takes it personally. I know I'm not you, but I would've got up and shook everyone elses hand, then walked out.
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Elise: I was cool the few months that i was there. I even gave her a gift for Christmas. I was thinking about leaving because I was not convinced that she was a healthy therapist for me. One of the things she told us to do is to vent our anger at the dry cleaners, etc., just wherever we had the opportunity. I would have left if I had another group to go to, and i was getting some things out of it, so i stayed. I suspect she was unhappy about my not acting in awe of her like the other women.
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faith: I'm looking for another group
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Justicere: I wish I would have done that. Thanks for your support.
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YUP .... very inappropriate and unprofessional on the therapists part .
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It sounds like your psych needs to see your therapist as a patient.
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tig, we are not responsible for how another person feels or how they choose to react to a situation. We just are not that powerful. I think that is called shifting the blame when we don't own our own feelings. If this therapist got upset, that was her choice, not yours. I would not accept that blame if someone nicely delivered it in a package with a ribbon.
Blessings..
EllaBlue
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Hi, I don't think you overreacted, but I do think that therapist did. You asking if she was having feelings is a logical question. Your therapist sounds like a perfectionist. My guess is that she gave it a term used in psych., in order to convince herself that she was not having counter-transferance with you. And sending you a letter is like wanting to work it out with you. That is her wanting to continue doing her drama, instead of not needing to have contact with you.
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I am in the process of finding a support group or group therapy. One of the things I have read time and time again, is that the majority of therapists working in this field suffer from their own Codependance issues, and have not resloved them. Not unusual since Co-dependants naturally have a need to help others to boost their own self esteem. I think you were right in what you did and how your reacted. I really loved your response.
Kind of the "Customer is always right kinds thing" Good for you. I may use that one some time if needed.
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I would try and find another group. Sounds like your therapist has got problems.
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