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Courage to Change--al anon literature.
October 15
The most loving form of detachment i have found had been forgiveness. Instead of thinking of it as an eraser to wipe another's slate clean or a gavel that i pound to pronounce someone "not guilty," i think of forgiveness as a scissors. I use it to cut the strings of resentment that bind me to a problem or a past hurt. By releasing resentment i set myself free.
When i am consumed with negativity over another person's behavior, i have lost my focus. i needn't tolerate what i consider unacceptable, but wallowing in negativity will not alter the situation. if there is action to take, i am free to take it. where i am powerless to change the situation, i will turn it over to my higher power. by truly letting go, i detach and forgive.
when my thoughts are full of bitterness, fear, self-pity, and dreams of revenge, there is little room for love or for the guiet voice of guidance within me. i am willing to love myself enough to admit that resentments hold me back, and then i can let them go.
Todays Reminder: every time i try to tighten the noose of resentment around someone's neck, i am really only choking myself. today i will practice forgiveness instead.
Courage to Change--al anon literature.
October 15
The most loving form of detachment i have found had been forgiveness. Instead of thinking of it as an eraser to wipe another's slate clean or a gavel that i pound to pronounce someone "not guilty," i think of forgiveness as a scissors. I use it to cut the strings of resentment that bind me to a problem or a past hurt. By releasing resentment i set myself free.
When i am consumed with negativity over another person's behavior, i have lost my focus. i needn't tolerate what i consider unacceptable, but wallowing in negativity will not alter the situation. if there is action to take, i am free to take it. where i am powerless to change the situation, i will turn it over to my higher power. by truly letting go, i detach and forgive.
when my thoughts are full of bitterness, fear, self-pity, and dreams of revenge, there is little room for love or for the guiet voice of guidance within me. i am willing to love myself enough to admit that resentments hold me back, and then i can let them go.
Todays Reminder: every time i try to tighten the noose of resentment around someone's neck, i am really only choking myself. today i will practice forgiveness instead.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Thank you.
This forgiveness thing is making sense to me , I totally can see how freeing and healthy it could be ... I just don't know how yet , I am trying though to find ways to pull all the resentment and anger away .
Its really a process though .
thankyou for this post , it really hits home for me
But it is something to think about while I am on the path to where ever it is I am going right now.
I love that book Courage to change. I didn't read it yesterday but now I know that I should have. Thanks for sharing!
i think sometimes we trick ourselves into thinking there is some magical destination and when we get there everything is perfect.
today i focus on realizing that i am right where i need to be in the process. i love and forgive myself. i love and forgive others!
so glad this post spoke to y'all.
my aim is to post the day's reading here.
obviously it struck a chord!
xo
blessings.