Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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I have a poor self-concept. I feel inadequate. Critical emotional needs were not met when I was a child. Basic things like being afraid in the dark, and not being reassured that it was nothing to fear. And my mother being cold and distant; dumping me off at my Gramas', when I was a baby. I am learning that these are components that formed me as a person who likes to be codependent. Have you had experiences like these?
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Yes, being afraid of the dark is a common childhood experience, but I did not have parents who nutured me through this process. For the most part, I was raised by my grandmother. I consider her to be my real mother. These events do not necessarily "make" or deem you as co-dependent, but they can have a negative impact on you as a person, and compound your codependent disposition.
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yes. our childhood experiences are what form us as adults pretty much.
google "inner child codependency"
you might find something interesting to you.
blessings!
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I'm here with you. I grew up with parents that were addicts/codependant and abusive (emotional pain doesn't leave scars but they are there) so I know what you mean by afraid of the dark. I had to learn to be alone.
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I'm sure my parents had 'something' to do with my developed codependency behaviors but I beleive my expereince to be far from 'abusive'; I believe that word to be too strong and it implys intent or knowing to me as well. This is an interesting topic for me as I am trying to realize what it is exactly that I am fearful of...
I have memories of various childhood experiences that could have helped me along but I mostly remember positives about my parents specifically; not that there is an absence of negative stuff it just ins't an overwhelming majority.
I think I developed a lot of this 'fear' I have when I entered a 'way too adult' relationship at age 13...
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maia, i would say that now i am a parent, i realize DAILY how we fail our children. and how despite our best intentions we still can't parent them in the ideal way we want to.
i would suggest that something in your childhood led to you be such a sexy teen.
there doesn't have to be abuse. i am learning that now. it's simply being human, a lack of connection, emotional honesty etc.
"healing the child within" is a great read on this. to see how we got where we are.
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Hi, I have had numerous negative experiences like those. It helped me to remember all that I could, so I could understand what had formed my psyche. I do psychotherapy with a paychologist and a therapy group, which helps a lot.
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I grew up with two
very bright, articulate and community-involved people who should never have been parents.

Not whining here,just the fact. Very critical and angry people...i'm just waking up to all of this now.
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Hi Enila, I can relate. Our 'success' oriented society approves what is visible on the outside, and many children get neglected in the process.
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