I am in a committed relationship of 3 years now... every few months we go through a "burp" where he says he is smothered because I do everything for him...which is true.. This time is a little different, we bought a house together so I expected him to "freak" out a little bit once reality set in and it has...of course the me doing everything for him came into play. I had a day all to myself on Saturday, I dint call him or anything. I found out at the end of the day that I felt ok and that I could breathe. I did fine on Sunday and mostly through Monday (although on Monday I had to talk myself through it)... now today he is in need of something and I am fighting off not being pushy and letting him take care of it himself. I dont understand this behavior as I am new trying to unravel my issues. It's not that I dont think he is capable, of course I do. Maybe its the good feeling I get when he needs me... but I would rather him want me than need me... and if I am pushy and overbearing he doesnt want to be around me because he feels smothered... OH MY THIS VICIOUS CIRCLE... we had a wonderful day together on Sunday and it was the first time in a long time that we were together the whole day and I could breathe without worry... how do I work into being able to do this everyday? It was such a wonderful feeling, and we wanted to spend time together... I miss that! Please help, I dont want to mess things up and I want my heart and head to stay in the same place...
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