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DO I NEED A WALKING STICK

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Sometimes i feel like a person wh finds it hard to walk needs their walking stick, like codependants need people to get by! i hate this! im scared of leaving my b/f even know i thin ki should! i feel like i dont have anything in my life right now! but actually i have got a good job, a house, a family! but yet i still feel very alone! Me and boyfriend when we r together all we do is get stoned, have sex and do nothing, chat.. i mean he is nice and normal i think i dont know!
help!!! where does this fear come from>
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Why do you think you should leave him? and what are you scared of happpening if you do?
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he cheated on me in 5 weeks of us being together!
he is unemplyed so i pay for everything, food etc.
he doesnt listen, i mean in the morning when i want to sleep b4 i get up, he wants sex all the time. he sleep in his own time when i go to work cus he doesnt work, it seems he doesnt care bout my health. i dont know wot i fear!!
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Gettin stoned and sex can get to be boring, pamela78, if you always feel you are being mooched, taken advantage of, and he doesn't have any consideration. You're anger is trying to tell you something.
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you need to take that walking stick and hit him over the head with it...
oh wait! did i say that out loud?
seriously though, protect yourself.
everything you are feeling is normal and valid. you are waking up to the reality of your situation.
there are brighter days ahead!
blessings.
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I second Afloat!
If you are unhappy with your current situation what will you be missing if you end it with this man?
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first of all..he needs to get a job. second you need to take a good look at what you want out of this relationship. It's gotta be about you!! Your worth it!!
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Rofl-afloat & Maia-yup right over the head...

The fear is your internal self telling you that you are in trouble. Listen to yourself. Normal is not getting stoned and having sex nor is it accepting that he cheated on you after being together for 5 weeks. Sounds like he needs to get a life....and you deserve better!
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I agree,, I agree, I agree! with all of these reply's!
Honey,, wake up, you cannot start by supporting him! We TEACH people how to treat us! This is a VERY bad start!!!! You are supporting him and he repays you by sleeping with someone else??? It will only get worse and is happening while you are out making the money to feed his ass!!!
OMG,, get him out of YOUR house!
Hugs!
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"where does this fear come from??" It comes from you not realizing your self worth, your goodness, your strength. You rely on him for your validation- this is hard, but do realize, in recognizing there is a problem, you've taken the first step? Keep going.
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Pam, when someone shows you who they are? Believe them. This will only get worse, not better. I think those that answered before me were right and honest with you. I know the truth can be harsh at times, but the truth is what we need to hear...
Blessings..
EllaBlue
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It sounds like you have a life nd a career. It also sounds like you have a fear of being alone (I know I did and sometimes still do). All I can say is that you have alot more going for you that he does. You need to get out of this situation and focus on youself. You may be alone at first, but you will not be alone forever. As for the walking stick... I agree with Afloat - smack him upside the head with it and move on.
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I had to ask myself just one question---
do I want a MAN, or a CHILD????
I have 4 children...I sure didnt need another one to take care of! =)
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