I never understood this until a little while ago when I read that it was one of the traits of codependency. 90% of my relationships I really thought I had feelings for the person when all it was was that I felt sorry for them! I once dated a high school droupout drug dealer with a kid (keep in mind that I was the good girl in high school) Me at 17 wanted to be the one to help him get his life on track. I wanted to be the one that "fixed" him. He ended up just up and dissapearing on me one day. Then there is the guy that didnt have a dad (or rather he didnt know where his dad was). I wanted to find his dad for him. I wanted to fix this problem. Did they ask me for my help......NO! but my codependency led me to think that I don't feel good unless I am helping. I have a million of these stories. Do any of you guys relate??
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