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can you give me some answers please.

deleted_user
deleted_user
my family is dependant on me for everything. seems like no one can do anything for themselves. i am raising a grandson and also have a mentally challanged daughter which needs total care. my other daughter only calls when she needs something or bills to be paid for her. well, here is my problem! i have had a friend on here for as long as i have been here. she was not dependent on me for anything, just very good friends. for some reason she was getting close to me and i started to panic and i deleted her off my list. i really dont know why, i just did and cant explain it. would any one here have any advice for me why i would do such a thing. she has done nothing except be my best friend, thank you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Perhaps you are afraid of being hurt, so you don't allow yourself to get too close to people. Just a guess.
deleted_user
deleted_user
In my own case, and I don't know if this applies to you, I don't feel deserving of other people to care about me because I don't feel that I measure up in reciprocating.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes caretakers misconstrue concern or kindness as neediness. The caretake begins to feel trapped or enmeshed, and begins to run. If you really feel that no boundaries were broken, explain it to her, she if she's willing to work it out. None of us are perfect, and we all have different reactions based on our past experiences.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Getting close to people can be scary for those of us who have trouble with intimacy.
But this is something only you can truly answer.
deleted_user
deleted_user
maybe you figured you were getting as close as family and had in your head she was going to start taking from you and you wouldn't know how to say no. maybe she said something innocent and it triggered something in you. e-mail her and explain the situation. usually real friends are understanding.
mgs1
mgs1
Everyone close to you is needy. You inner core is being protective and fearing one more needy person may be more than you can handle. You need to learn to play the tape differently in your mind... or maybe your gut was telling you something you didn't want to hear.
I'd suggest the book by David Richo, "How to be an adult."
STAY STRONG, GOD BLESS
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