We are in this cycle - weekends always are the worst. He is totally withdrawn, non-verbal. I think that he may be depressed, not really sure what is going on with him, because he will never talk about it. At this particular moment, I just started cooking dinner, he spent the day angrily sleeping on the couch. He gets up suddenly, and grunts. I say, "what's wrong?" He says, "I thought you were going to cook that dinner hours ago! Don't bother making any for me!" And he leaves. I'm sure that he has gone to pick up food or something. He slept all day, never said anything regarding when he wanted dinner. I was busy cleaning and trying to get our 3 girls ready for school tomorrow (a 9 year old and two 6 year olds, twins). We don't talk any more, we don't have sex, we don't go out. Whenever I try to talk to him about our problems or that I am unhappy or angry with him, we says nothing and then "punishes" me in this way (like abruptly storming out). What am I supposed to do, when and if he comes back? Part of me is really angry, that he is so mean and so petty. Another part of me wants nothing to do with him at all, and just feels like there is nothing to be accomplished by talking to him except more grief. I am so lonely and sad. If I don't talk to him, he just goes along with a boring routine of work and coming home and sleeping and being crabby. If I tell him I would like him to be more affectionate, talk to me, whatever, then he initially brushes me off. If I persist, he becomes really angry, distant and hurtful. I feel like there is no way to make this situation better.
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