Okay PO and I have eight kids (he has 5 and I have 3, none together). We went Xmas shopping together. We mainly used his paycheck to buy the gifts because my paychecks (more stable) pay the household bills for the month and I'm not going to not pay my bills or depend on his pay (not stable at all) to pay them later. The whole time we were shopping he kept saying we would put both our names on the gifts for the kids so that we didn't have to buy separate gifts for each child and could spend more together and get the "bigger" gift off their list. Last night he was wrapping the presents for his boys as they have to be mailed to Florida. I noticed that he put on the tags from DAD so I mentioned that I thought we were putting both names on the gifts and he proceeded to tell me that he didn't mean for his kids. "I want them to have something just from their Dad this year". I had to walk away. I went into the bedroom and just cried. I felt like there was nothing in that box from me for the boys although I was the one that gave him my lunch money to get the skateboards they wanted and I will be the one mailing them today. Did I have a right to feel hurt? After he took a shower he came out and told me that he did put my name on the skateboards after some thought....If I hadn't gotten upset over it he wouldn't have changed a thing. I am not sure even today how I feel about this. Was i wrong to say something? I didn't mean to say it to make him do something out of guilt. I'm trying hard to use my words when someone hurts me so that they are aware that they have hurt me....then I can deal with the emotions instead of stuffing them inside like I have always done.
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