I had this same problem. I thought some days it would swallow me alive. I took everything with a "twist of anger". Anger combined with martyrdom was a great motivator for me at one time to rise above the circumstances. In this way I grew attached to it. Anger combined with intellectualism equals cynicism. In this way I never had to really engage other's.

Anger is it's own entity has been my experience. It's just angry - it doesn't have to have a reason. A good antidote for me for this strong emotion has been physical release - an exercise routine, a punching bag, or feverish writing until I'm wiped out. Run it down.

It sounds like you've gotten all the closure from other people your satisfied with getting. So I'd say its probably best just to wear it down. You may feel physically and emotionally tired for a while after this - and I think that's normal.

For me, time has helped. There are still things that surface from time to time that will re-ignite my anger. I'll just think on it for a while and choose to move on. It is really hard sometimes.

Read " The Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner. This may help.

Hi, Two books that helped me with anger: 1. Anger Your Ally by Niel Clark Warren, PhD (co-founder of eHarmony) 2.The Angry Book by Theodore Issac Rubin, M.D.

Hi, Anger was a sign to me that there were underlying matters that I was not acknowledging. I have my psyc. to thank for that, though he was a real pain the many times he butted up against me to keep me on track. (I guess he thought I was a real pain, too!) And 90% of the time there were emotional links to past experiences. So I would ask myself, "What does this remind me of?" Sometimes I would be angry because it was easier than feeling hurt, afraid, an injustice, (and there is one more I can't remember right now). My relief was talk, talk, talk, write, write, write, feel, feel, feel.

Yeah, anger it seems was a wonderful motivator for me also. But, now I ask myself, what would I do in this situation if I were'nt angry about it. my answer is now to let it pass and focus on doing something I enjoy instead of what my anger at the person would have me do at this time or the decision I would make for myself that would not be so good for me,ie destructive behavior toward myself (overworking, overeating(which I still do right now)taking the anger out on someone else that I will have to reproach myself about later.

Hi Scattered...for me, I had to ask myself "what was behind the anger?" Anger is such a knee-jerk response and feeling and for most of us we are very familiar with that, so we go right TO the anger. Behind my anger was usually hurt, or disappointment or even sadness. Those feelings we can work with but we must let go of the anger to get to that point.
Anger really is normal and necessary at times. BUT, the key is to let go of it so we can go on and feel better.
Staying angry at someone will never DO a thing to them, but it will only hurt us and stall the process that we need, to go forward.
((Hugs))
EllaBlue

well, i have to really forgive the person...for me i realized that even though i thought i forgave the person, i really still wanted them to know how much they hurt me and i held on to it, even after they apologized.....but, i realized i need to let it completely go and release forgiveness from my heart and my mind brings it up, i have to remember that i forgave that....

I think Annnnn has it right. I've found the things or situations that make me angry are things similar to very emotional things from my childhood. I want to fix or change a current situation because I'm really wanting to fix my past. Everytime I see how I'm trying to control the present to change the past...the anger goes. I have to cry a lot and do some mourning for the child I was, but it helps.

Hi, I remembered what the fourth one beneath anger is: sadness