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Afraid to be alone...

enfieldguy
enfieldguy
Is this co-dependency? My wife is leaving me this weekend for a separation. We are going to continue to work on the marriage and the relationship and will probably see each other often but I am deathly afraid of being alone. So much so that I reach out to others to talk to avoid being alone. Help?
deleted_user
deleted_user
it's normal to be afraid of being alone. it's when you tolerate constant disrespect or abuse to avoid being alone that it becomes a problem.
use this time during separation to work on YOU as well as your marriage.
nothing wrong with reaching out to others, in a friendly way. is that what you meant?
blessings!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I guess you are some what "codependent" from what all I have read about it. Do not beat yourself up, I think we ALL are. How can you be in a relationship such as marriage, having children, sharing stuff, and not take on the others problems and "stuff" and let yours get lost?? I believe it is just like working out, the largest muscle works before the smaller, so one person has to be more sensitive, more needy, more fearful, and so on.

My husband is starting to travel out of the country almost every week, I have two boys, and I feel sick everytime he leaves, But I don't know about you, my husband has major issues, and grew up inan abusive home. He has a drinking problem, and has at times stayed out all night at a strip joint. So I am super sensitive when he leaves.
I guess this site, and books, doing somthing that keeps you busy helps. Also sitting a lone for a brief moment, try as best you can to ONLY think about YOU!!! remember what you used to enjoy doing before your "wife" good luck
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