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ache in your center

Does anyone else have a constant ache in their center/stomach? It varies from a dull ache to one that can double me over. And it seems to have come on stronger since I have started therapy.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

I have had similar problems dealing with my love addition / codependency side affects. It's almost to a point where I feel physically sick and cannot eat. My stomach is in such knots that no matter how positive I try to think the "aching" wont go away. I hope you can find peace and your aching heals. Stay strong.
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deleted_user

There are many websites and books that link physical symptoms to spiritual causes. Spiritual writings on chakras identify the stomach area as a chakra The stomach chakra is supposed to be the location for "birthing anew" and "creativity". If you look at them, stomach pain can mean some different things - dreading the new, not feeling nourished.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Yup - it's my anxiety talking, and my guilt
deleted_user
deleted_user

Hi There,

I can relate to the physical pain of loss. It felt as though my heart had been torn in two. It was very real and felt as if it would never go. I can say it lasted for around 1 week at this intensity and them became intermitant. I can still have this occassionaly now but less severe and only short episodes when I have the craving and yearning for my ex codependant relationship of 24 years. Melody Beatties books have been a life saver and have kept me centered when I thought I was going insane and my life had become unmanageable. I now attend CODA and am slowley learning to love myself. Hope this helps and the pain will get better.
koolman
koolman

Yep.

Love hurts, didn'tcha know?
koolman
koolman

Or LACK of love, the black hole, the void, might be causing the ache.

I would like that ache to become a FIRE, in my belly! But, at the moment, it's just an ache.
deleted_user
deleted_user

yes i feel this it is very physical for me for at least a month r two in the pit of my stomach
deleted_user
deleted_user

my stomach knots up and i cant eat sometimes i cant sleep either or i cant stop eating or i become addicted to certain foods or facebook posting stuff just random mad stuff im going to try to change these crazy addictive behaviours i wish i could be less mad more balanced
deleted_user
deleted_user

Some times physical movement make a difference.
Exercise like dance, yoga, swimming, martial arts, self defence,
skating, walking, bicycling, bowling, tennis, ping pong, volley ball,
horse shoes, etc. youll find what works for you!
Also volunteering can fill voids as long as there is balance.
Dont start an addiction replacement or new obsession.
Moderation is key.
Meditation is good too - find a local group to join.
Pain/ aches can lead to other issues over time if it long term seek medical help. May you be on a healthful journey.
deleted_user
deleted_user

It might be an ulcer caused by stress. Have it checked out. Ulcers can cause death if left untreated. Is it on the left side of you body? That is where the stomach is.
koolman
koolman

I swear by exercise. When I train in the gym, 20 minutes of cardio, pushing weights and then a 20 min. cardio cool-down, I'm so exhausted I can't help but feel relaxed, warm and self-loved, and the pit in the stomach is completely gone, because i purged it, through sweat and pushing from the inside out. This feeling of well-being lasts about 2 days; then I need to exercise again.

But exercise is the healthiest "addiction" there is. As far as addictions go, we could do much worse!