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I find it difficult to work on the issue of acceptance. To accept the situation I am in, to accept the bills I have to pay, to accept that people don't understand me and have different points of view, to plant flowers in my garden and see that the ones I liked best are withering, etcetera, etcetera... I guess I could make a long list.
For me, I would like to remain a fighter, and I'm resisting the 'masochistic' feeling of acceptance, although I realize that this fighting spirit costs a lot of energy and generates a lot of frustration. It must be a difficult balance to acquire!
For me, I would like to remain a fighter, and I'm resisting the 'masochistic' feeling of acceptance, although I realize that this fighting spirit costs a lot of energy and generates a lot of frustration. It must be a difficult balance to acquire!
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
So, courage to change things is still required. But we are fools when we keep trying to change what cannot be changed, like the things you mention, and more. Hence the wisdom.
Yes it is hard. For years, I did not even understand what was meant by this word.
The feeling of masochism may be occuring because you feel the things you must accept are somehow harmful to you.
Resignation is a different form of acceptance. A lot of your examples seem to deal with being resigned... unavoidable things. I like the Serenity Prayer for understanding different kinds of acceptance.
acceptance, for me, is more like surrender.
surrender to my powerless over things i cannot control.
i cannot control anything but my actions...and even then there are times i cannot control them.
there is a peace and serenity to acceptance and surrender that, for me, had given me happiness and joy...freedom of choice.
things i never had when, lik you said, i was fighting. fighting tooth and nail. it did cost me energy that could've been spent examining my insides rather than another's motive.
another's motive or reason or decision doesn't matter. it doesn't matter at all. all that matters is our response and our decision how to deal with it.
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it can be done, this balancing act, but it requires daily attention and consistently putting our own spiritual and emotional health first.
that is not masochism. masochism is suffering in a toxic relationship. and insanity is thinking that the other is going to change....
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i always enjoy hearing your thoughts!