Hi, my husband has been looking at pornography since his childhood and it has taken a turn for the worst. Now, he feels he has a problem since it has been interferring in our sex life but I think he is still unsure. His mother says what he does is normal, and it's my problem. We've been together for a total of 5 years. I've been in an unhealthy relationship before, I am born as a product of a seperation and my father has not really been in my life. My husband is addicted to anything he gets his hands on but he doesn't do drugs or drink and he doesn't gamble because he knows it woud get out of hand. His father is an alcoholic and his mother is the matriarch of the family and hasn't said it but I know she doesn't approve of me. I talked to my counselor about me being codependent but she doesn't think so since I say what's on my mind most of the time. I took a test and I scored high. I think I am because I want to file for a divorce on Monday but I've been rethinking it over and over. I have the "I believe he can change attitude." Like I said, it's been 5 years. He said he is going to start going to counseling but he stopped taking his meds because he doesn't want to be on them for the rest of his life. Can two people in the marriage be codpendent if I am understanding correctly? The addict is codependent and then the spouse? Obviously his mother is too. If I were to stay in this relationship, it is abusive as I have slapped him and he has drug me around, I feel like it would keep going the same way. I *know* things aren't going to change and I don't even think I'm in love with him anymore. I don't know how to get myself out of this and I do feel like no one is ever going to love me for me.
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