I just found this group the other day. I always knew I had some sort of issue, but didn't realize until recently that it is codependency. I am absolutely terrified of hurting people's feelings. I do things I don't want to do because I am afraid if I don't people will leave. The desperation I feel to keep people in my life is just so strong. It's embarrassing really. But I don't know how to change. Sometimes I'm afraid that I will always live in this fear. Right now I have a knot in my stomach. I know why I am the way I am (divorced parents, controlling mother who is an undiagnosed borderline, absent father, etc.), but it almost makes me feel worse--like, I'm diseased or something. Is there help? What if I'm too scared to make a change? Then I'm stuck. :(
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